Learning to Manifest Prosperity from Loss
Posted by Kris Stecker on 17 Mar 2009 at 04:16 pm | Tagged as: Career, Money, Personal Development, Prosperity, Relationships, Spiritual Development, Wellness
A recent Facebook comment about being laid off stimulated this post. My first reaction is to say: Congratulations. You have graduated from what you were doing and now you have the opportunity to go to your next level. Of course, I seldom say it out loud because most people are not ready to hear it in that way. They are dealing with their anxiety about not knowing what’s next.
It’s important to know how to go from loss to prosperity. Whether you do this for yourself or your clients, it’s an important skill to master. This creates the foundation of what we do at Spa Tech Institute.
As an agent of positive energy (which describes anyone who is working on prosperity) the more you help others to reach their highest potential, the more prosperous you become as well.
For people who are laid off or part of a company that fails, the experience is ultimately a loss or death and follows a predicable emotional pattern. This also applies to all losses: Death, divorce, financial loss and other similar events. Because it applies to financial loss as well, we are surrounded by a lot of people who are going through this experience now. Even if you did not lose your job, if you had a 401K, property or other investments, you have lost a lot in the last couple of years.
The question is: How can you stay positive and focused on the next level of manifestation after this happens?
FIrst, think of this as a graduation. It’s a completion, not a loss. Many spiritual traditions require new members to give up worldly possession, relationships and other things. When a person goes into the military, they shave their heads and erase their identity so they can become part of a new culture. This process shakes people up and gives them a chance to change.
Second, whenever there is a loss, most people go through the 5 stages of grieving: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. Whether you quit a job or are laid off, graduate from school or move out of a house, be aware that this is a normal process. The more aware of the stage you are in, the faster you can move through it.
But how does this fit in with manifesting what you want? It’s simple. The 5 stages are all part of your transformation and evolution. At first you will be walking around in a daze. Then you will move on to being mad, etc. Ultimately, it’s our resistance to change at the heart of the struggle. Once we accept change we can move on to creating what we want in the world.
If we are able to treat all change as a graduation from one state and an opportunity to start something new, we can look at the situation as a positive event. It may take a while to get to that view but the faster we can move into it, the less likely we are to get stuck in one of the 5 stages of grieving.
One of the other great benefits of loss and the 5 stages of grieving is that it gives you a chance to identify what really matters. Most people eventually discover (after they have moved on to their next opportunities) that they really needed the change and were tired or bored of what they were doing. I think that people are far more powerful than they realize in creating the changes they need in their lives. For instance, ask yourself, were you getting up every morning looking forward to going to work or were you dreading it. Did you look forward to the weekend and vacations more than Monday mornings? What does that tell you?
So as you look at your situation, pay attention to what your inner voice is saying. Many people I know, even the ones who say they love their work, really mean that it is the best job that they can allow themselves to have. In other words, they love their job more than other jobs, but they don’t really love what they do. Again, the proof is in looking at what days you look forward to the most: Days off or days at work.
At this point you may be wondering what I’m smoking. Of course, nothing but energy. When you really love what you do you have a deep passion for it that fills your imagination and inspires you to contribute. Finding what you really love is the surest path to bliss and excellent health. It also gives you the prosperity that you deserve. I know from personal experience. I have had good jobs that I did not look forward to going to. And I have also found what I love to do. It is very different. I’m also surrounded by a lot of people who either already are doing what they love or are learning to do what they love.
There is nothing that makes live exciting as doing what you are meant to do. Every day is an adventure.
Be well and prosper,
Kris
Kris,
Wonderful blog.
Those recently laid off may be experiencing what they consider an ‘oversensitivity’ to their job loss. However, ‘oversensitivity is not an exageration. The reality is we suddenly live in a time when our livilihood is our best (and maybe only) investment. This was not true for everyone last year and for the past several years. For many their house or stock were considered the best investment. These investments have lost considerable value putting livihood at the top of the list. And making job loss more uncomfortable.
Extreme sensitivity and fear is exagerated by the present ‘mass mind’ (catching emotions that resonate in the aura – see RYSE, Tools for Life, Holding Your Personal Power and Life Force). If you have been laid off or have clients who have been, help them understand the ‘mass mind’ and get away from it. Print out this blog or use the information in it for help. There is now a great opportunity to align to energizing right livelihood.
Our students and graduates are very fortunate in this respect.
Nancy
Kris:
Well said. Going through stages of loss may create feelings of victimization, depression and/or instability … all part of the growing and going through every moment of life.
After reading E. Tolle’s book “The New Earth”, being present in every moment does change perspective. You can concentrate on the sky color, the grass beginning to grow, whatever is currently within your personal space and be present to what you are experiencing through all your senses.
It also puts your current situation into a process, a continuum instead of a race to the end. Nobody gets out of this life alive, so racing to the inevitable is not my idea of living.
Hello Kris and Nancy,
What inspiring, useful information and insight. One manifestaton I am grateful for in this time of economic loss is the return to simpler and more resourceful living. I grew up in the 60′s and 70′s and was a young adult in the 80′s; we had less stuff and earned a lot less money and we had a lot of fun. Forests, streams and tree forts were our playground and a couple of bucks simply had to go a long way.
Now I’m forced to have smaller portions of everything which has created the push to be more creative. It feels good to use what’s curently in the fridge or the closet and not feel compelled to have MORE! I waste less and appreciate more. I choose more carefully and my life is simpler.
Just as Kris said; I realize what’s important and like Nancy said what I actually own outright are my skills.
Thanks you two…b
Hi Kris and All.
I have a question for you. You said in the post that, “When you really love what you do you have a deep passion for it that fills your imagination and inspires you to contribute.”
I have an interesting situation in that regard. When I am actively giving massage to clients and friends, I feel immersed in the healing energy, and it is a wonderful thing. When the schedule is blank, and I get days off at a time sometimes, that also feels comfortable, and although I would rather be giving massage and helping people relax and heal, I find it curious that it does not consume me that I am not bothered by it except for the financial aspect. Any thoughts?
Peace.
Christopher
I have experienced the sheer joy and relief of being laid-off from a job I couldn’t stand but couldn’t bring myself to leave. In those cases, as in certain relationship break-ups, I felt, to the core, that God or the Universe was doing for me what I could not or would not do for myself. Usually, my reluctance to make the change was based on fear, real or imagined, and worries about the expectations of others.
My last big lay-off gave me the opportunity to pursue a long standing goal to become trained in Massage. I had been considering Spa Tech from the time when it was PRI. I LOVED IT!
Since graduating, I have had various experiences in different settings, some I liked better than others, but ultimately decided that I did this to get out on my own and that I was not going to get anywhere I wanted to be until I did. So now, in this crazy economy, I am building a practice that is really mine, and somehow, defying logic, I am getting by. I plan to do much more than that.
With the help of my Polarity therapist, (who also happens to have been my Polarity Teacher), at Spa Tech, I am learning to allow myself to receive, without having to know where it is all going to come from. As I open to the possibilities that I may not even be able to imagine, they begin to appear.
I still get tied up in the expectations of others, but not quite so tightly and certainly not for as long as I used to. Right now, that means that I have to trust the universe to support me in my ability to have my own sessions every 2-3 weeks. I rarely try to justify the expense or the time to anyone, including myself, anymore. I KNOW that this is a huge part of what is propelling me forward and giving me the elements I need to grow into my most amazing, gifted, and wildly successful, self.
A psychic told me, a few years, ago that I was supposed to be a Great Healer. And so, it is.
Excellent points and thank you for your observations. I have taken the empty handed leap into the void and it takes time, but once the universe sees that you are relentless about your commitment to succeed, the opportunities manifest. Keep up the great work.